” Everyone in the room laughed except for this gentleman.
Some of my favorite books on bodies, sex, and intimacy are: For kids: “Sex is a Funny Word” by Cory Silverberg For girls: “The Care and Keeping of You” by Valorie Schaefer For boys: “Dating and Sex: A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy” by Andrew Smiler For parents of teens: “For Goodness Sex” by Al Vernacchio On female sexuality: “Come as You Are” by Emily Nagoski On male sexuality: “The New Male Sexuality, Revised Edition” by Bernie Zilbergeld For LDS couples: “What Your Parents Didn’t Tell You About Sex” by Anthony Hughs There are many more great resources out there.
The third step is : Where sex is used so commonly to sell products (either by sexualizing our lunch or pointing out our flaws in order to get us to buy the product that will “fix” everything), media and marketing can throw a real punch to our sense of self worth. We all have stories or narratives that we tell ourselves, and if the old one hasn’t been helpful, begin writing a new story.
We need to claim our right to be okay just the way we are. Claim the amazing things that make you who you are. Learning to look at your past in new ways can help open up potential for growth and new discoveries in your future.
We have many experiences where we notice our partner, and we make a choice: “Do I ATTUNE myself to what is going on,” or, “do I turn away? When we feel acknowledged, we feel secure and safe.
” Pay attention to what happens when you turn away. A- Acknowledge T- Turn Toward T- Tolerance U- Understanding N- Non-Defensive E- Empathy Here are some fun ways to practice attuning opportunities: Whatever you decide, remember the importance of attuned engagement and the strengthening power it has.