Hartman said the key to feeling comfortable is to focus on making the other person feel the same. "Try to meet people partway and if it feels nerve-wracking, don’t focus on your own feelings of discomfort. That’s the backwards irony of all this: They’re so focused on their own feelings.
They don’t have to worry about being at a dinner party, talking to eight people, figuring out how to look charming,” she said. She maintains that online dating can work for introverts in ways offline dating doesn't."It’s a way of fulfilling sentimental human need for connection and romance without having to put yourself through a very unpleasant process of going to singles bars and things like that," Cain told , Cain writes about the "self-negating choices" introverts make when they feel the pressure to identify themselves as outgoing.Hartman said that this is a choice she sees introverts make in their online dating profiles.People typically perceive introversion as simple shyness.In other words, introverts are people who don't like conversation, keep to themselves and only feel comfortable in solitude.