Few things are more flattering to an older woman than being with a younger guy who craves her body and who is more eager to be close to her physically than any older guy would.Often, a younger guy and an older woman would “decide” upfront that their relationship will be casual, and that they should not expect any commitment from each other, because they know that the end of that relationship is inevitable because of the seemingly irreconcilable age difference.Women who breastfeed their older children argue they are doing nothing wrong, and that each mother should be free to do what is right for their child, whether not to breastfeed at all or continue indefinitely.But there is little evidence of any health benefits beyond the age of one.The worry of many developmental psychologists is that extreme breastfeeding dampens this natural stage of a child’s development and serves only to indulge the mother: it gives her attention and a purpose. They become interested in body parts and what they do.Breastfeeding a child old enough to walk over to his mother and open her shirt creates a confusing message about personal boundaries and our bodies.Breastfeeding babies is natural and normal – but in my opinion, breastfeeding your child up until three or even later is unnecessary.Dr Sears is an advocate of something called attachment parenting, which involves parents and children sleeping in the same bed, babies being carried in slings – even at home – and mothers breastfeeding until they want to stop, whatever the age of their offspring.
That higher sex drive translates, among other things, into being more direct with men.
The more mature women may be interested in dating a younger guy out of sheer curiosity of what it feels like dating someone younger, and also because usually younger guys are more “agile,” active, energetic.
Being around a younger guy makes a woman feel younger as well.
Much of Dr Sears’ philosophy has become mainstream in the two decades since he published his first book – papoose-style carriers are a common sight, and of course children should be cuddled as much as they need to be.
And breastfeeding until a child goes to school is fulfilling a mother’s needs, not a child’s. Children are at the centre of our world but it doesn’t mean we need to be at the centre of theirs.