They hate being the villain of their own story and it’s easier to make someone close to them the bad guy.They don’t want you to have any sense of self worth.If they are able to make others feel that way it gives them a sense of control over the truth and a feeling that they are not alone.
They project this blame upon others because they cannot stand facing it in themselves.
They still do not care about your feelings and emotions, they only care about making you feel a certain way so they can get the pleasure they are seeking. They have big hole in their egos they are desperately trying to fill by making others feel a certain way, it’s their addiction.
They usually try to make others feel the same, or very similar like they are feeling deep inside, and they do not even know it.
The author of For Better, For Worse, Forever: Discover the Path to Lasting Love explained that people in these types of relationships aren't miserable all of the time; there can be bouts of time when things are going great, and that's when confusion really sets in.'You feel like you are on a roller coaster ride,' Beatty said, noting that 'the earlier you get out, the better' because you'll find yourself in a circular relationship that wears you down and makes you feel bad about yourself.
According to Beatty, emotional manipulators are only concerned about their own needs and wants.