In addition, he provides an international coaching and counseling service via telephone helping people solve their relationship challenges. I created my free newsletter because I was tired of seeing great women struggle unnecessarily in love.Friends care about each others' happiness and well-being. #2: Are We Emotionally Honest and Vulnerable with Each Other?Two people who cannot be emotionally open with each other can never have true intimacy and love.And if you can’t track it down through your own efforts, see a competent therapist to help you. in philosophy and was ordained a rabbi in Jerusalem in 1982.
The essence of good communication is that you can consistently reach win-win solutions to your problems and disagreements. The communication about the problem is the problem. One of the most important principles of marriage is: If it’s important to you, it’s important to me. Do you make jokes about the other person in front of others and then try to cover it by saying, “I was only joking”?Giving in order to get something back is being a taker. " If you're not ready to be fully responsible, you're not ready to get married. The one place he doesn’t need to feel more pressure is at home. John Gottman’s new book, The Science of Trust.) The essential issue of trust is captured in the question, “Are you there for me? Can I trust that you will provide a safe home for my feelings and needs? Listening to another person’s feelings is one of the greatest acts of kindness we can perform.An important question to ask yourself is, “Do I enjoy giving to this person or do I find it burdensome? For a man marriage isn’t about getting his needs met. The three A’s of cherishing a woman are: Attention, Affection, and Appreciation. Making your wife feel loved and cherished is not just a nice idea; it's a Torah obligation. He needs you to believe that he is trying hard to provide for you and the needs of the family. If you don’t trust each other with your feelings, think twice about getting married. One of two things happens in a marriage: People either grow together or grow apart.Not once but twice, we bless the couple that they should become “beloved friends.” Make sure you’re friends first and then lovers.A lover who is not your friend can easily hurt you. And if they do, they will make every effort to repair the hurt, just like you do with your best friends.