I did discuss my concern with him – saying that we could still see each other and get to know one another on a friendship level (nothing physical has happened on our 4 dates) and once he has found his stability in his work/career we can go from there. He totally freaked out on me and was very passive aggressive – which opened up a whole other can of worms. Now here’s the problem – he’s 31 and has not finished his degree (I have two post graduate degrees), has not kept a stable job for more than 12 consecutive months (in fact he quit his job last week just because he didn’t like his boss anymore), has no assets, no savings, no investment and still needs to pay off his student loan. Two examples of great men who make less than their wives: A high-school history teacher and soccer coach who has a Masters degree. I am totally freaking out – as I said he is a nice guy, so am I walking away from a good thing just because I find the stability (financial being one of many) and consistency (he seems unable to commit, complete or stick to anything) missing in his character? He has his summers off, a pension, and is home before 5pm every day. Well that set the ball rolling on the topic of whether or not women need men with money, except they are gold diggers.He contends that even when women say that the man they are looking for do not have to have money or lots of it, in practice this is not how they behave.
Although we have heard them expressly state that money is not an issue for them, when it came down to chosing a man they each ridicule men who were not even able to take them out to dinner, or have a home for themselves. If you are a man what has been your experience in this area?
The article points out what I’ve observed previously: the issue these days isn’t so much that the male schoolteacher is “intimidated” by the high-paid female advertising executive (there are some, but you don’t want them anyway), but rather that the high-paid ad exec refuses to date the schoolteacher. Isn’t the point of being independently wealthy so that you can do what you want, when you want?
Doesn’t the value of being self-sufficient come in not having to worry about someone supporting you?
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