"This does create a situation of 'temptation,' and not everything that takes place online stays online.People are bolder when hiding behind a screen, and often click on send without thinking first.If you're not sure whether your special "friend" could threaten your relationship, these signs may tip you off."One of the biggest red flags is that you're spending a lot of time talking to your crush about your primary relationship or marriage in a way your mate would find worrisome," says Dr."You find yourself modifying your routine/schedule to see the person more frequently, the quantity and frequency of contact with him/her increases, and your feelings for the other person deepen and intensify." Also, pay attention to the butterflies that may be buzzing around your tummy when he texts and don't ignore these emotional changes.It's like those innocent crushes you had in middle school — only there's way more at stake here. It's one thing to use the occasional thought of your crush as a way to rev up your libido — as long as the goal of this fantasy is to pleasure your partner and yourself.Don't forget to pin this gallery for later and follow Redbook on Pinterest for more sex and relationship advice!Picture this: That the guy in the corner office at work looks like Kit Harington.
"Benefits of an affair can include a chance to have a meaningful relationship repair with your current spouse, falling in love with the person you are having the affair with or a chance to start over with another that may be a better fit for you now.
And there are healthy ways to do that, like joining a class, book club, scheduling regular dinner dates with friends each month, or even simply Skyping with family when you're too busy for regular visits.
All of these efforts will enrich your life and broaden your social circle so that you don't expect 24/7 attention from your partner.
And, of course, social media has made it even easier to connect with people, including past flames, thereby potentially fostering a sense of intimacy.
Sure, a social networking site can't technically harm a marriage (Mark Zuckerberg isn't physically forcing you to send that message), but it still makes it dead easy for careless, impulsive people to sink their own marriages, says Dr. O'Connor, a licensed marriage, family therapist, relationship coach, and author of ."Technology has allowed people who might never risk having any kind of affair, to flirt online, and more," O'Connor says.