ASK THE EXPERT: QI have been married 10 years and we have four children aged 9, 7, 6 and 4.
Recently, I discovered that my husband has been using adult chat rooms online and seems to have been communicating in sexually explicit ways with other people.
"In a sense, they're using the Internet to 'self-medicate,"' he said.
Until he was fired on May 29, 2003, Pacenza was making ,000 (euro49,546) a year operating a machine at an IBM plant in East Fishkill that makes computer chips.
The machine measures the thickness of silicon wafers.
Several times during the day, machine operators are idle for five to 10 minutes as the tool does its work.
A man who was fired by IBM for visiting an adult chat room during the workday is suing the company for million, claiming he is an Internet addict who deserves treatment and sympathy rather than dismissal.
Diederich says Pacenza had returned that day from a visit to the Vietnam Veterans Memorial in Washington and logged onto a site called Chat Avenue and then to an adult chat room.
"Engaging in sexual intercourse on an IBM desk is potentially more disruptive of the workplace than is a brief visit to a computer chat room resulting in words on a monitor," Pacenza said.
IBM spokesman Fred Mc Neese, a spokesman for Armonk-based IBM, would not comment.
In papers filed in federal court in White Plains, Pacenza said the stress caused him to become "a sex addict, and with the development of the Internet, an Internet addict." He claimed protection under the American with Disabilities Act.
His lawyer, Michael Diederich, says Pacenza never visited pornographic sites at work, violated no written IBM rule and did not surf the Internet any more or any differently than other employees.